辩论-same-sex-marriage.doc

1. 伦理
"Marriage has its own dignity and purpose and its own mission: bringing together male and female so that children can know and be known by, love and be loved by, their own mother and father. Same-sex marriage is unjust because it is founded on an untruth. Same-sex unions are not marriages…it misuses the law to require something that is not true: these unions, however great they are in other ways, are not marriages and nobody should be required by law to treat them as marriages."

2. 父母不同意引发家庭悲剧
中国：China is a country with long history and traditional ideas, so most people, especially the elderly, can hardly accept same-sex marriage. Most parents cannot accept their children being homosexual, partly because they are affected by the traditional Chinese ideas and partly because they want to have a grandchild. If a homosexual whose parent can not accept it at all, it will inevitably lead to a quarrel. If the quarrel becomes serious, it may even induce a family tragedy.
美国：In the United States, many parents will drive away their gay children, cut off the support on the economy, some parents may even resort to violence.

3. 周围：生活压力大，没人理解和祝福 社会歧视，不平等
感到受歧视：Although the society is becoming more and more tolerant, lesbian in real life in the society are still isolated, discriminated or browbeaten. A study showed that lesbian felt isolated when they were only 15. This is very harmful to their mental health.
自杀、酗酒：Anxiety and depression are the most frequently encountered problems to lesbian. When they have to hide their sexual orientation to family and friends, or be discriminated against moral or religious, they would be particularly depressed. A survey made in 1994 found that more than half of lesbians had had the thought of suicide and 18% had committed suicide. A survey in Shenzhen also showed that 49.5% of lesbian had the thought of suicide or even committed it. Lesbians are also vulnerable to have drinking problems. A survey in Wuhan showed that 93% of lesbians often smoke to relieve their stress because they often feel isolated and depressed.
年长后压力大最终选择结婚：In 2008, some scholars made a survey in Shenzhen, found that lesbians may feel less pressure when they are young, but with the growth of the age, there is more and more pressure in marriage and fertility problems. Under pressure, the majority of lesbians will eventually choose marriage, even children.
找工作难： A survey of 1295 gay men in Chongqing, Harbin, Changchun and Shenyang showed that 9% of them revealed their sexuality and were fired of forced to quit a job. And 5% felt their sexuality has affected their career.

4、孩子 家庭维系>>>领养 血缘 >>

Since the ancient times, it has been a dream for almost every family to have children in their home. It is also claimed that only when a woman becomes a mother can she be a really woman, which clearly states the importance of having children in one’s family. Although nowadays there are some DINK family not wanting children, we should not deny the fact that child is the bond of family relationships. For people who pursue same-sex marriage, they cannot have a child their own. You may claim that they can adopt one as their kid. However, blood relationship plays an important role in a family, which cannot be replaced by adoption relationship.
(Binds for life is shared responsibility for the children. A small fraction of gay couples may choose to raise children together, but such children are offspring of one partner and an outside contributor. What will keep gay marriages together when individuals tire of each other?)

5、人类种族繁衍
Marriage is the reproductive way of the human race. Same-sex marriage prevents people from having their offspring. If our country permits the same-sex marriage, we cannot tell whether it is a way that our nation encourages people not to have children. In the long run, people will get less and less on the result of the same-sex marriage and the influence to the other heterosexual families. （生产力、劳动力）
Same-sex marriage leads to the tendency that there will be less kids in our society. We can see a low birthrate and aged tendency of population. Young people will bear much pressure to take care of their parents and gay people will have no people to look after them in their late 80s. You may talk about the country’s welfare, but we cannot only depend on that. Old people with kids sometimes suffer a lot, let alone those without kids and looked down on people.

6、影响小孩的生长发育（被嘲笑、 心理 被培养成同性恋 被剥夺拥有父亲母亲的权益）
Even same-sex marriage couples adopt a child and carefully raise him/her up, it may also exert bad influence to the little kids and will harm the kid’s mental health. First of all, most people in this world are still against homosexual people, thus their kids are more likely to be treated unequally and may be laughed by other kids. Also, children may find hard to accept the fact that they have a same-sex parents and even some of them will feel ashamed of this. Thus, a peaceful family relationship cannot last long. Moreover, some will twist their understanding about marriage and normal sexual recognition. They may go to extremes and find it hard to accept the heterosexual marriages. They may even become a homosexual person growing up in that kind of family. In addition, they are just adopted when they know nothing about the world and they may feel awful not to be adopted by normal sex parents.（ 父母培养小孩不同的方面 缺少某方面的教育 女孩： 月经 父亲可能不知道如何教育）
Parents from different gender can cultivate different sides of their children. For example, father is more likely to teach kids to be brave and determined， while mother teaches them to be careful and patient, which can only be learnt from the daily life. Even gay couples can tell these characteristics to them, but they will not get it without feeling about it. Although, if two men couples adopt a daughter, when girls have menses(月经), fathers may not know or inconvenient to teach them this stuff.

7. 社会导向：会导致更多同性恋的出现
Government should not encourage same-sex marriage. We are educated to marry a spouse who has the opposite gender with us since we were child. If same-sex marriage becomes legal, child may feel it right to marry a same-sex person. It will increase the possibility for children to become homosexual. So it would be wrong to outlaw it but encouraging it is not necessary.
8.冲击传统婚姻
I admit that people have a right to live any way they want to, but even anatomically, but let's face it, the only way that we can create the next generation is through a male-female relationship. For 5000 years of recorded human history, that's what marriage has meant. If we change the definition [of marriage], then we really do have to change it to accomodate all lifestyles. I mean, we would have to say to the guy in West Texas who had 27 wives, 'That's OK.'...
What gay marriage will do and is doing is disconnect marriage as an idea from its natural roots, and increasingly stigmatize the people (and institutions) who adhere strongly to our traditional views of marriage…
And I think that we have to be very thoughtful and careful before we say that we're going to undo an entire social structure."

9. 定义
Well, first-off, marriage is between a man and woman, husband and wife. That is what marriage is and always has been, around the world for centuries. That is the definition of marriage. Again, marriage is a male + female thing.
(Marriage is essentially a lifelong compact between a man and a woman committed to sexual exclusivity and the creation and nurture of offspring)
10. 大部分人反对同性恋结婚
Ifeng survey made a survey on 14961564 people and 74.9% of them think they can’t accept homosexual at all and will treat them differently from heterosexual. Indeed, there are more people in the world who reject same-sec marriage, perhaps this is why same-sex marriage policy is so difficult to carry out. The new president of France advocated same-sex marriage, but about 800 thousand people protested against him and gathered in Paris to show their demonstration on January 13 this year. Why there are only 11countries in the world make same-sex marriage legally? Because much more people oppose same-sex marriage and they are huge resistance.
11.（人权 兄妹之间）
Ok, if you introduce Gay marriage into society as a Right, then who is to say that a man, and his dog, or 3 men and sheep, or 2 women and 1 man, etc, etc, are not also going to want the so called right to marry. The fact of the matter is Marriage as defined between a man and a woman is a sacred historical feature of the human species, governements sanction it for a reason, it is beneficial for a society to prosper and be fruitful, it’s a foundation of human existence.

12、这些小样本研究中收养孩子的同性恋者是冒着很大的社会压力收养孩子的，这或许是因为他们特别喜欢孩子，或许是特别想要将“同性恋夫妻也能养好孩子”证明给社会看。一旦同性恋婚姻得到法律认可，同性恋收养成为普遍现象，这些养好孩子的动因就会严重削弱。

Some homosexual couples adopt their children under great social pressure. Maybe they really like to have a child, or just because they want to prove that homosexual parents can also raise children very well. If they focus on the latter reason, once the same-sex marriage is recognized by the law and adoption by gay couples becomes a common phenomenon, then the motivation to bring up a child with care and love will be severely weakened.

13、一个“同志”很可能既想要同性“伴侣”又想要与自己有血缘关系的孩子，而除了跟异性结婚外这是没有办法实现的。

Some “gay” people want to both marry their same-sex lover and have blood relationship with their children. This cannot be realized unless they just marry the opposite sex person.

14. 爱情其实是没有办法用制度来保障的，包括异性间的爱情。虽然婚姻法鼓励相爱的人结成夫妻，但它无法保证夫妻长久相爱，婚姻法强调的其实是责任。婚姻本质上是为人类延续而产生的有利于子女的制度。同性恋不能生孩子，没有结婚的必要。

Law does not assure love, even including love between opposite sexes. Though law of marriage encourages people to get married, it cannot ensure couples will love each other forever. Actually, what the law of marriage emphasizes is responsibility. Essentially, "Marriage is a public institution because it brings together men and women for the reproduction of the human race, and keeps them together to raise the children produced by their union.
Opposite-sex relationships are the only type capable of producing children through natural intercourse, and the only ones assured of providing children with both a mother and a father.
Same sex marriage cannot produce child, thus, it is unnecessary to legalize same sex marriage for gay people.

15. 养老问题
With the increases in the prices of everything in our society, it’s becoming more and more difficult for old people to live on their pension. In 2009, the average medical expenses of old people is 6280yuan, while the average income is 16056yuan. It means that old people need to spend 40% of their income to pay the medical expenses. If the couple don’t have a child, it will be very difficult for them to live a good life. And no one will accompany them to the hospital. If anything emergent happens, they have no children to help them.

16. 法律只保证物质方面的权利，不涉及精神层次，使同性恋合法化会使社会伦理观念（和1相近）动摇

17. 如果同性恋者/异性恋者都可以结婚，那么世界上为什么还要有两种不同的性别呢？
（存在即合理，因此异性婚姻有其理由，同性则违反上天旨意？）

正方：1.人权>> 人人平等 平等是相对 同意这个那个 底线
2. 同性之间 性格相合 更容易交流 兴趣相似
（互补、 异性相吸 兴趣相似 趋同
3. 不生小孩 经济压力小 也不会争吵（ 孩子是维系 少了生活的乐趣 没有依靠 养老没有保障 ：年老没有人陪你去）
4. AIDS 同性间感染的少:

5 平衡 ： 找不到 （ 平衡达不到）
6、社会人口少：生产力下降 出生率下降 人口老龄化
7. 我们是人 同性恋者也是人，为何我们要隔离他们呢？就不能设一个舞台给他们，让他们和我们一样，做一个正常平凡的人类，拥有自己的婚姻吗？ 请……可怜可怜他们吧. >>> 可怜他们？ 那么乞丐也是人，政府是否应该定时拨款给他们，以示公平呢？（对于乞丐的现象，政府加大各方的保障力度 减少贫困 对于同性恋者 政府并未进行打压，已经是十分宽容的态度了）

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