控制好你内心的心流演讲稿.docx

控制好你内心的心流演讲稿
eveensler：embraceyourinnergirlgoodmorning.i'mveryhappytobehereinindia.andi'vebeenthinkingalotaboutwhatihavelearnedovertheselastparticularly11yearswithv-dayand"thevaginamonologues，"travelingtheworld，essentiallymeetingwithwomenandgirlsacrosstheplanettostopviolenceagainstwomen.
whatiwanttotalkabouttodayisisthisparticularcell，orgroupingofcells，thatisineachandeveryoneofus.andiwanttocallitthegirlcell.andit'sinmenaswellasinwomen.iwantyoutoimaginethatthisparticulargroupingofcellsiscentraltotheevolutionofourspeciesandthecontinuationofthehumanrace.
andiwantyouimaginethatatsomepointinhistoryagroupofpowerfulpeopleinvestedinowningandcontrollingtheworldunderstoodthatthesuppressionofthisparticularcell，theoppressionofthesecells，thereinterpretationofthesecells，theunderminingofthesecells，gettingustobelieveintheweaknessofthesecellsandthecrushing，eradicating，destroying，reducingthesecells，basicallybegantheprocessofkillingoffthegirlcell，whichwas，bytheway，patriarchy.
iwantyoutoimaginethatthegirlisachipinthehugemacrocosmofcollectiveconsciousness.anditisessentialtobalance，towisdom，andtoactuallythefutureofallofus.andtheniwantyoutoimaginethatthisgirlcelliscompassion，andit'sempathy，andit'spassionitself，andit'svulnerability，andit'sopennessandit'sintensityandit'sassociation，andit'srelationship，anditisintuitive.
andthenlet'sthinkhowcompassioninformswisdom，andthatvulnerabilityisourgreateststrength，andthatemotionshaveinherentlogic，whichleadtoradical，appropriate，savingaction.andthenlet'srememberthatwe'vebeentaughttheexactoppositebythepowersthatbe，thatcompassioncloudsyourthinking，thatitgetsintheway，thatvulnerabilityisweakness，thatemotionsarenottobetrusted，andyou'renotsupposedtotakethingspersonally，whichisoneofmyfavorites.
ithinkthewholeworldhasessentiallybeenbroughtupnottobeagirl.howdowebringupboys。whatdoesitmeantobeaboy。tobeaboyreallymeansnottobeagirl.tobeamanmeansnottobeagirl.tobeawomanmeansnottobeagirl.tobestrongmeansnottobeagirl.tobealeadermeansnottobeagirl.iactuallythinkthatbeingagirlissopowerfulthatwe'vehadtotraineveryonenottobethat.（laughter）
andi'dalsoliketosaythattheironyofcourse，isthatdenyinggirl，suppressinggirl，suppressingemotion，refusingfeelinghasleadthushere.wherewehavenowcometoliveinaworldwherethemostextremeformsofviolencethemosthorrificpoverty，genocide，massrapes，thedestructionoftheearth，iscompletelyoutofcontrol.andbecausewehavesuppressedourgirlcells，andsuppressedourgirl-ship，wedonotfeelwhatisgoingon.so，wearenotbeingchargedwiththeadequateresponsetowhatishappening.iwanttotalkalittlebitaboutthedemocraticrepublicofcongo.forme，itwastheturningpointofmylife.ihavespentalotoftimethereinthelastthreeyears.ifeeluptothatpointihadseenalotintheworld，alotofviolence.
iessentiallylivedintherapeminesoftheworldforthelast12years.butthedemocraticrepublicofcongoreallywastheturningpointinmysoul.iwentandispenttimeinaplacecalledbukavuinahospitalcalledthepanzihospital，withadoctorwhowasaclosetoasaintasanypersoni'veevermet.hisnameisdr.denismukwege.and，inthecongo，forthoseofyouwhodon'tknow，therehasbeenawarragingforthelast12years，awarthathaskillednearlysixmillionpeople.itisestimatedthatsomewherebetween300，000and500，000womenhavebeenrapedthere.
whenispentmyfirstweeksatpanzihospitalisatwithwomenwhosatandlinedupeverydaytotellmetheirstories.andtheirstoriesweresohorrificandsomind-blowing，andsoontheothersideofhumanexistence，thattobeperfectlyhonestwithyou，iwasshattered.andiwilltellyouthatwhathappened，isthroughthatshattering，listeningtothestoriesofeight-year-oldgirlswhohadtheirinsideseviscerated，whohadgunsandbayonetsandthingsshovedinsidethemsotheyhadholes，literally，insidethemwheretheirpeeandpoopcameoutofthem.
listeningtothestoryof80-year-oldwomenwhoweretiedtochainsandcircled，andwheregroupsofmenwouldcomeandrapethemperiodically，allinthenameofeconomicexploitationtostealthemineralssothewestcanhaveitandprofitfromthem.mymindwassoshattered.
butwhathappenedformeisthatthatshatteringactuallyemboldenedmeinawayihaveneverbeenemboldened.thatshattering，thatopeningofmygirlcell，thatkindofmassivebreakthroughofmyheartallowedmetobecomemorecourageousandbraver，andactuallymorecleverthanihadbeeninthepastinmylife.
andiwanttosaythatithinkthepowersthatbeknowthatempirebuildingisactuallythatfeelingsgetinthewayofempirebuilding.feelingsgetinthewayofthemassacquisitionoftheearth，andexcavatingtheearth，anddestroyingthings.iremember，forexamplewhenmyfather，whowasveryveryviolent，usedtobeatme.andhewouldactuallysay，whilehewasbeatingme，"don'tyoucry.don'tyoudarecry."becausemycryingsomehowexposedhisbrutalitytohim.andeveninthemomenthedidn'twanttoberemindedofwhathewasdoing.
iknowthatwehavesystematicallyannihilatedthegirlcell.andiwanttosaywe'veannihilateditinmenaswellasinwomen.andithinkinsomewayswe'vebeenmuchharshertomenintheannihilationoftheirgirlcell.（applause）iseehowboyshavebeenbroughtup，andiseethisacrosstheplanet，tobetough，tobehardened，todistancethemselvesfromtheirtenderness，tonotcry.iactuallyrealizedonceinkosovo，wheniwatchedamanbreakdown，thatbulletsareactuallyhardenedtears，thatwhenwedon'tallowmentohavetheirgirlselfandhavetheirvulnerability，andhavetheircompassion，andhavetheirhearts，thattheybecomehardenedandhurtfulandviolent.
andithinkwehavetaughtmentobesecurewhentheyareinsecure，topretendtheyknowthingswhentheydon'tknowthings，orwhywouldwebewhereweare。topretendthey'renotamesswhentheyareamess.andiwilltellyouaveryfunnystory.onmywayhereontheairplane，iwaswalkingupanddowntheisleoftheplane.andallthesemen，literallyatleast10menwereintheirlittleseatswatchingchickflicks.andtheywereallalone，andithought，"thisisthesecretlifeofmen."（laughter）
i'vetraveled，asisaid，tomanymanycountries，andi'veseen，ifwedowhatwedotothegirlinsideusthenobviouslyit'shorrifictothinkwhatwedotogirlsintheworld.andweheardfromsunithayesterday，andkavitaaboutwhatwedotogirls.butijustwanttosaythati'vemetgirlswithknifewoundsandcigaretteburns，whoareliterallybeingtreatedlikeashtrays.i'veseengirlsbetreatedlikegarbagecans.i'veseengirlswhowerebeatenbytheirmothers，andbrothersandfathersanduncles.i'veseengirlsstarvingthemselvestodeathinamericaininstitutionstolooklikesomeidealizedversionofthemselves.i'veseenthatwecutgirlsandwecontrolthemandwekeepthemilliterate，orwemakethemfeelbadaboutbeingtoosmart.wesilencethem.wemakethemfeelguiltyforbeingsmart.wegetthemtobehave，totoneitdown，nottobetoointense.wesellthem，wekillthemasembryos.weenslavethem.werapethem.wearesoaccustomedtorobbinggirlsofthesubjectofbeingthesubjectsoftheirlivesthatwehavenowactuallyobjectifiedthemandturnedthemintocommodities.
thesellingofgirlsisrampantacrosstheplanet.andinmanyplacestheyareworthlessthangoatsandcows.butialsowanttotalkaboutthefactthatifoneineightpeopleontheplanetaregirlsbetweentheagesof10to24，theyaretheykey，really，inthedevelopingworld，aswellasinthewholeworld，tothefutureofhumanity.andifgirlsareintroublebecausetheyfacesystematicdisadvantagesthatkeepthemwheresocietywantsthemtobe，includinglackofaccesstohealthcare，education，healthyfoods，laborforceparticipation.theburdenofallthehouseholdtasksusuallyfallsongirlsandyoungersiblings.whichensuresthattheywillneverovercomethesebarriers.
thestateofgirls，theconditionofgirls，will，inmybelief，andthat'sthegirlinsideusandthegirlintheworld，determinewhetherthespeciessurvives.andwhatiwanttosuggestisthat，havingtalkedtogirls，becauseijustfinishedanewbookcalled"iamanemotionalcreature：thesecretlifeofgirlsaroundtheworld，"i'vebeentalkingtogirlsforfiveyears，andoneofthethingsthati'veseenistrueeverywhereisthattheverbthat'sbeenenforcedongirlistheverb"toplease."girlsaretrainedtoplease.iwanttochangetheverb.iwantusalltochangetheverb.iwanttheverbtobe"educate"or"activate"or"engage"or"confront"or"defy"or"create."ifweteachgirlstochangetheverbwewillactuallyenforcethegirlinsideusandthegirlinsidethem.
andihavetonowshareafewstoriesofgirlsi'veseenacrosstheplanetwhohaveengagedtheirgirl，whohavetakenontheirgirlinspiteofallthecircumstancesaroundthem.iknowa14yearoldgirlinthenetherlands，forexample，whoisdemandingthatshetakeaboatandgoaroundtheentireworldbyherself.
thereisateenagegirlwhojustrecentlywentoutandknewthatsheneeded56starstattooedontherightsideofherface.
thereisagirl，juliabutterflyhill，wholivedforayearinatreebecauseshewantedtoprotectthewildoaks.
thereisagirlwhoimet14yearsagoinafghanistanwhoihaveadoptedasmydaughterbecausehermotherwaskilled.hermotherwasarevolutionary.andthisgirl，whenshewas17yearsoldworeaburqainafghanistan，andwentintothestadiumsanddocumentedtheatrocitiesthatweregoingontowardswomen，underneathherburqa，withavideo.andthatvideobecamethevideothatwentoutallovertheworldafter9/11toshowwhatwasgoingoninafghanistan.
iwanttotalkaboutrachelcorriewhowasinherteenswhenshestoodinfrontofanisraelitanktosay"endtheoccupation."andsheknewsheriskeddeathandshewasliterallygunneddownandrolledoverbythattank.
andiwanttotalkaboutagirlthatijustmetrecentlyinbukavu，whowasimpregnatedbyherrapist.andshewasholdingherbaby.andiaskedherifshelovedherbaby.andshelookedintoherbaby'seyesandshesaid，"ofcourseilovemybaby.howcouldinotlovemybaby。it'smybabyandit'sfulloflove."
thecapacityforgirlstoovercomesituationsandtomoveonlevels，tome，ismind-blowing.andthereisagirlnameddorcas.andijustmetherinkenya.anddorcasis15yearsoldandshewastrainedinself-defense.andafewmonthsagoshewaspickeduponthestreetbythreeoldermen.theykidnappedher，theyputherinacar.andthroughherselfdefense，shegrabbedtheiradam'sapples，shepunchedthemintheeyes，andshegotherselffreeandoutofthecar.
inkenya，inaugustiwenttovisitoneofthev-daysafehousesforgirls，ahouseweopenedsevenyearsagowithanamazingwomannamedagnespareyio.agneswasawomanwhowascutwhenshewasalittlegirl，shewasfemalegenitallymutilated.andshemadeadecisionasmanywomendo，acrossthisplanet，thatwhatwasdonetoherwouldnotbeenforcedanddonetootherwomenandgirls.
so，foryearsagneswalkedthroughtheriftvalley.shetaughtgirlswhatahealthyvaginalookedlike，andwhatamutilatedvaginalookedlike.andinthattimeshesavedmanygirls.andwhenwemetherweaskedherwhatwecoulddoforher，andshesaid，"well，ifyougotmeajeepicouldgetaroundalotfaster."so，wegotherajeep.andthenshesaved4，500girls.
andthenweaskedher，"okay，whatelsedoyouneed。"andshesaid，"well，now，ineedahouse."so，sevenyearsagoagnesbuiltthefirstv-daysafehouseinnarok，kenya，inthemasailand.anditwasahousewheregirlscouldrunaway，theycouldsavetheirclitoris，theywouldn'tbecut，theycouldgotoschool.andintheyearsthatagneshashadthehouseshehaschangedthesituationthere.shehasliterallybecomedeputymayor.shehaschangedtherules.thewholecommunityhasboughtintowhatshe'sdoing.whenwewerethereshewasdoingaritual，whereshereconcilesgirlswhohaverunaway，withtheirfamilies.andtherewasayounggirlnamedjaclyn.jaclynwas14yearsoldandshewasinhermasaifamilyandthereisadroughtinkenya.andsocowsaredying，andcowsarethemostvaluablepossession.andjaclynoverheardherfathertalkingtoanoldmanabouthowhewasabouttosellherforthecows.andsheknewthatmeantshewouldbecut.sheknewthatmeantshewouldn'tgotoschool.sheknewthatmeantshewouldn'thaveafuture.sheknewshewouldhavetomarrythatoldman，andshewas14.
so，oneafternoon，she'dheardaboutthesafehouse，jaclynleftherfather'shouseandshewalkedfortwodays，twodaysthroughmasailand.shesleptwiththehyenas.shehidatnight.sheimaginedherfatherkillingherononehand，andmamaagnesgreetingher，withthehopethatshewouldgreetherwhenshegottothehouse.andwhenshegottothehouseshewasgreeted.andagnestookherin.andagneslovedher.andagnessupportedherfortheyear.andshewenttoschoolandshefoundhervoiceandshefoundheridentityandshefoundherheart.
andthen，hertimewasreadywhenshehadtogobacktotalktoherfatheraboutthereconciliation，afterayear.andihadtheprivilegeofbeinginthehutwhenshewasreunitedwithherfatherandreconciled.andinthathut，wewalkedin，andherfatherandhisfourwivesweresittingthere，andhersisterswhohadjustreturnedbecausetheyhadallfledwhenshehadfled，andherprimarymother，whohadbeenbeateninstandingupforherwiththeelders.andwhenherfathersawherandsawwhoshehadbecome，inherfullgirlself，hethrewhisarmsaroundherandbrokedowncrying.andhesaid，"youarebeautiful.youhavegrownintoagorgeouswoman.wewillnotcutyou.andigiveyoumyword，hereandnow，thatwewillnotcutyoursisterseither."
andwhatshesaidtohimwas，"youwerewillingtosellmeforfourcowsandacalf，andsomeblankets.butipromiseyou，nowthatiwillbeeducatediwillalwaystakecareofyou，andiwillcomebackandiwillbuildyouahouse.andiwillbeinyourcornerfortherestofyourlife."
forme，thatisthepowerofgirls.andthatisthepoweroftransformation.iwanttoclosetodaywithanewpiecefrommybook.andiwanttodoittonightforthegirlineverybodyhere.andiwanttodoitforsunitha.andiwanttodoitforthegirlsthatsunithatalkedaboutyesterday，thegirlswhosurvive，thegirlswhocanbecomesomebodyelse.butireallywanttodoitforeachandeverypersonhere，tovaluethegirlinus，tovaluethepartthatcries，tovaluethepartthat'semotional，tovaluethepartthat'svulnerable，tounderstandthat'swherethefuturelies.
thisiscalled"i'manemotionalcreature."andithappenedbecauseimetagirlinwattsl.a.iwasaskinggirlsiftheylikedbeingagirl，andallthegirlswerelike，"no，ihateit.ican'tstandit.it'sallbad.mybrothersgeteverything."andthisgirljustsatupandwent，"ilovebeingagirl.i'manemotionalcreature。"（laughter）thisisforher：
ilovebeingagirl.icanfeelwhatyou'refeelingasyou'refeelinginsidethefeelingbefore.iamanemotionalcreature.thingsdonotcometomeasintellectualtheoriesorhard-pressedideas.theypulsethroughmyorgansandlegsandburnupmyears.oh，iknowwhenyourgirlfriendisreallypissedoff，eventhoughsheappearstogiveyouwhatyouwant.iknowwhenastormiscoming.icanfeeltheinvisiblestirringsintheair.icantellyouhewon'tcallback.it'savibeishare.
iamanemotionalcreature.ilovethatidonottakethingslightly.everythingisintensetome，thewayiwalkinthestreet，thewaymymommawakesmeup，thewayit'sunbearablewhenilose，thewayihearbadnews.
iamanemotionalcreature.iamconnectedtoeverythingandeveryone.iwasbornlikethat.don'tyousayallnegativethatit'sonlyonlyateenagething，orit'sonlybecausei'magirl.thesefeelingsmakemebetter.theymakemepresent.theymakemeready.theymakemestrong.
iamanemotionalcreature.thereisaparticularwayofknowing，it'sliketheolderwomensomehowforgot.irejoicethatit'sstillinmybody.oh，iknowwhenthecoconutisabouttofall.iknowwehavepushedtheearthtoofar.iknowmyfatherisn'tcomingback，andthatnooneispreparedforthefire.iknowthatlipstickmeansmorethanshow，andboysaresuperinsecure，andso-calledterroristsaremade，notborn.iknowthatonekisscouldtakeawayallmydecisionmakingability.（laughter）andyouknowwhat。sometimesitshould.thisisnotextreme.it'sagirlthing，whatwewouldallbeifthebigdoorinsideusflewopen.
don'ttellmenottocry，tocalmitdown，nottobesoextreme，tobereasonable.iamanemotionalcreature.it'showtheearthgotmade，howthewindcontinuestopollinate.youdon'ttelltheatlanticoceantobehave.iamanemotionalcreature.whywouldyouwanttoshutmedownorturnmeoff。iamyourremainingmemory.icantakeyouback.nothinghasbeendiluted.nothing'sleakedout.ilove，hearme，ilovethaticanfeelthefeelingsinsideyou，eveniftheystopmylife，eveniftheybreakmyheart，eveniftheytakemeofftrack，theymakemeresponsible.
iamanemotional，iamanemotionalincondotional，devotionalcreature.andil