学会生活在现实中.doc

学会生活在现实中 Learn to live in the present moment To a large degree,the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live on the present moment. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are-always! 我们内心是否平和在很大程度上是由我们是否能生活在现实之中所决定的不管昨天或去年发生了什么，不管明天可能发生或不发生什么，现实才是你时时刻刻所在之处 Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about variety of things-all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns dominate your present moments, so much so that we end up anxious,frustrated,depressed,and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing that someday will be much better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that someday never actually arrives. Jhon Lennone once said, Life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans. When we are busy making other plans, our children are busy growing up, the people we love are moving away and dying, our bodies are getting out of shape, and our dreams are slipping away. In short, we miss out on life. 毫无疑问，我们很多人掌握了一种神经兮兮的艺术，即把生活中的大部分时间花在为种种事情担心忧虑上而且常常是同时忧虑许多事情我们听凭过去的麻烦和未来的担心控制我们此时此刻的生活，以至我们整日焦虑不安，委靡不振，甚至沮丧绝望而另一方面我们又推迟我们的满足感，推迟我们应优先考虑的事情，推迟我们的幸福感，常常说服自己有朝一日会比今天更好不幸的是，如此告戒我们朝前看的大脑动力只能重复来重复去，以至有朝一日永远不会真的来临约翰列侬曾经说过：生活就是当我们忙于制定别的计划时发生的事当我们忙于指定种种别的计划时，我们的孩子在忙于长大，我们挚爱的人里去了甚至快去世了，我们的体型变样了，而我们的梦想也在消然溜走了一句话，我们错过了生活 Many people lives as if life is a dress rehearsal for some later date. It isnt. In fact, no one have a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time that we have any control over. When we put our attention on the present moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future-we wont have enoughh money,our children will get into trouble,we will get old and die,whatever. 许多人的生活好象是某个未来日子的彩排并非如此事实上，没人能保证他或她肯定还活着现在是我们所拥有的唯一时间，现在也是我们能控制的唯一的时间当我们将注意力放在此时此刻时，我们就将恐惧置于脑后恐惧就是我们担忧某些事情会在未来发生我们不讳有足够的钱，我们的孩子会惹上麻烦，我们会变老，会死去，诸如此类 To combat fear, the best stradegy is to learn to bring your attention back to the present. Mark Twain said,I have been through some terrible things in life, some of which actually happened. I dont think I can say it any better. Practice keeping your attention on the here and now. Your effort will pay great dividends. 若要克服恐惧心理，最佳策略是学会将你的注意力拉回此时此刻马克吐温说过：我经历过生活中一些可怕的事情，有些的确发生过我想我说不出比这更具内涵的话经常将注意力集中于此情此景，此时此刻，你的努力终会有丰厚的报偿