幸福课1-6课堂笔记.doc

幸福课第一讲
The teacher says,everything is going well ,but he is unhappy when he is in university.
And he want to know how can he become happier~----

Positive psychonogy makes him happy and he want to share with us .
1. 关注信息的本身,而不是信息的传达者.
We need to look at the message ,not the messager.
2. 积极心理学的宗旨在象牙塔和大众间建立桥梁
The explicit mandate of positive psychology is to creat a bridge between lvory tower and mainstreet.
3.安静让我们有机会反省我们的所见所闻.
important of quiet times---Silence gives us a chance to reflect on what we have said and heard.
3. 解读比信息更重要.
It’s not just the information that goes in ,but the interpretation,the perception感觉，知觉,the focus.
4. 快乐是由我们的精神状态决定的.
Happiness is much more contingent on our state of mind than something else (i.e material ,power or wealth，status社会地位 and the state of our bank account.)
5. WHAT THE CLASS IS ABOUT----
dave 的产生----it is about chipping away the excess stone.应用米开朗琪罗的著作《大卫》
Is about getting rid of the limitation,of barriers.whether it is the fear of failure.
要凿除削弱甚至伤害我们的完美主义,凿除胜利的能力
It is about chipping away perfectionism that is debiliting and often hurts us ,about chipping away our ability for success.that may be in turn limit us .

做减法比做加法灵魂成长的更快.
Soul grows more by substraction than by addition.

“In pursuit of knowledge, every day something is acquired; in pursuit of wisdom, every day something is dropped.”为学日益，为道日损。
——Lao Tzu老子

老子道德经第四十八章
为学日益 为道日损
损之又损 以至於无为
无为而无不为 取天下常以无事
及其有事 不足以取天下**********************
充实自身学问，要日日精进。
追求体悟大道，要日日减欲。
要不断的减损欲望，一直到无所住的境界。
当行事、作为皆无所住时，就无所不能；
也就是用天下间的自然法则去行无所住之事。
若是行事住相或有所得心（自己的欲求），
必无法将天下事处理得圆满。

6. Commom sense is not that commom.常识并不平常/常识并不常见。
7. Learn to study ourselves….本课程旨在提醒我们那些早已被我们理解并且隐藏在我们内心深处的一些事情，我们心中的“大卫”。
8.错的不是科学的重大发现，有信息总比无知强，无论是何种信息或无知，错的是信息背后的信念，认为信息会改变世界的信念，事实上它不会。
What is wrong is not the great discoveries of science,information is always better than ignorance,no mate what information or what ignorance,what is wrong is the belief behind the information,the belief that the information will change the world ,it won't.
9.be all you can be.做最好的自己
It is about fulfilling our potential 实现我们的潜能
10、 questions make difference.---the biggest mistake is not asking the right questions.最大的错误是不问正确的问题。问题远比答案重要。
11、“Children enter school as question marks and leave as periods.”孩子进学校时像问号而毕业时像句号。
12. Cause when you are little your life is up ，your future is up ,everything you want is up,"wait up! Hold up !Shut up! momma, clean up! let me stay up!" parents of course are just the opposite, everything is down."just clam down! Slow down! Clam down here! Sit down. Put that down!"当你还小的时候生活总在上面，···父母刚好相反··

第二课
The ratio 比例of 21:1---we should focus on positive psychonogy.

1. It is important to focus on what works because what works or what focus on rather creates reality.
2. why they are so successful---resilience弹性，弹力，引申为适应力(---adaptation in the context of significant adversity or risk.social support,内心的role model,admit weakness )---/idealisizm 理想主义/意义感,做个利社会者.
3. questions make difference,questions make reality.问题导致改变。问题缔结现实。
To appreciate what is working,when we appreciate good ,the good grows.
Grounded self-confidence(有根据的自信)
4. we see what we look for ,and we miss much of the what we are not looking for even though it is there.our experience of the world is heavily influenced by where we place our attention.我们会看到我们要寻找的东西，错失不寻找的东西。虽然它在那里。我们的阅历被我们的关注点深深地影响了。
关注自身好的方面,潜能,然后去栽培它,而不是一味的想自己有什么 不好,而使自己陷入恶性循环~
课程重点分享
1.
本课程里并不是所有的理论和观点都能引起你的共鸣，鉴别哪些东西适合你，而不是一切的东西。
2.
心理学这一学科对于消极方面的研究，远比积极方面的研究多。它向我们展示了人生的短处，缺点，过失，但是很少提及人生的潜能，长处，它的实际愿望或精神高度。研究消极情绪和积极情绪的比例是21:1。
3.
预防消极情绪的关键在于专注培养积极心态。
4.
积极心理学的目标是促成一种变化，让心理学从过度关注补救生活中最糟糕的事情，到同时关注生活中最美好的事情。
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成功的人都拥有适应力。适应力就是积极接受并适应对自己非常不利的环境，然后寻求改变，而不是消极的怨天尤人。
6.
问题制造现实。一个积极或者消极的问题，就会引起一场积极的或者是消极的探索。所以，问题导致改变。问题缔结现实。
7.
只有同时专注于积极问题的提出，才能顺利的解决问题。
8.
如果，我们问自己的唯一问题是自己的缺点和不足，那么，我们能看到的只有缺点和不足，在自己的眼中，所有的长处都不见了。
9.
一个主要关注缺点的人，看不到也不欣赏他们和别人的长处，这样的人怎么可能快乐呢？
10.
我们会看到我们要寻找的东西，错失不寻找的东西。虽然它在那里。
11.
我们的阅历被我们的关注点深深地影响了。
12.
希望和乐观会变成自我应验预言。
13.
自尊的六根支柱——详细见论坛里的转载。
14.
没有人会来使你的生命更美好，你得为自己的生活负责。

第三课
连着第二课
能否改变自己的人生,由自己决定
We should ask more positive questions,form a passive vicitim to an active agent.no one is coming ,is up to you to make that difference in your life.
How can we cultivate the seed of greatness in ourselves and families…?
1.Happiness doesn’t spontaneously rise when take unhappiness away.摆脱不快乐并不意味着我们会快乐~
Disease model 与 healthy model.---not focus on the depression and anxiety directly.---to cultivate the positive ,to cultivate personal strength,to cultivate and identify one’s passions.--- building competency,not correcting weakness
2.five basic premises of this course.
l Bridge building1.这课程是关于搭建桥梁的搭建学科之间的桥梁，广集思源，并搭建学术界与社会之间的桥梁，
l Change is possible and how is possible2.改变是非常困难的事，我认为改变是可能的
l Internal factors primarily determine happiness3.决定幸福的内部因素有关，这是我要讨论的，与决定幸福的，外部环境无关。
l Human nature must be obeyed4.我会谈到后者，就是说我们必须顺从于人性，接受它所有的缺陷和优点，而不是试图从心理层面上完善它
l Happiness is and ought to be the ultimate
How can I make world a better place?5.最后，我想说的是，幸福不应该只是我们追求的最终目标，还是一种道德追求，而不是一种普通的追求。
3.you need is a superodinate goal,a goal that you have carry out together
4.everyone benefits,when we study the best.

第四课
继续讲几大基本前提Where are we come form,where are we going…

1.Change 的发生以指数形式(exponential)
change is difficult ,but is possible.
For us ,if our goal is to become practical idealists,is to understand what it is that bring about change and then do it .
Can I make difference?
All change begins in the mind of single person or a small group.And then expands.
2.The problem is not lower these high expectations,that doesn’t matter,the problem is right versus wrong expectations,not lower higher expectations.
3.号令自然,必须遵守自然.不管是物质本质,还是人性本质.
Nature to be commanded must be obeyed.whether it’s physical nature ,or human nature.we need to obey it.it is what it is .
Accept it and then research and unstand it ,make the best use of it .
How can I channel my nature?
Give myself the permission to be human
But can choose how to behave ?
How we can cognitively reframe what we were thinking?
--is reality psychonogy not just focus on positive parts but accept painfull emotions are as part of human nature as the wonder emotions.

第五课
Final premise--- Our highest end is happiness and as a means to achieving psychological growth and improved psychological and physical health over time.
How to apply these premises to our lives.

1. When we experience negative emotions ,our consciousness narrows and constricts.postive emotions boarden and build,and then lead it too,it can creat an upward spiral.positive emotions can overcome bad emotions,and make us more creativity,think boardly.
2. help others is help ourselves.
3. the optimal way spreading happiness is to work on your own happiness.
5 个前提终于完结了~~
4.信念即自我实现预言.
belief ad self fulfilling prophecies
境随心转,全由意念升起,我们的念头造就了世界.
We are what we think,all that we are arises with our thoughts with our though,we make our world.
How to creat positive situation?

第六课
How to creat positive situation?

1.嗯,嗯,是说找一些想去的地方,自己爱的人的图,或是其它让人开心的东西,创造一种让人温暖,开心的环境.
集中精力,研究艺术,让它Inspire you .
2.self help movement…if you believe you will success ,the possible percentage of success will become much bigger ,but it has come to do with a lot of hard work and persistence and it comes to do with a lot failure and learning form that failure.
3.自我效能能感影响人们生活选择,动机 水平,机能的质量,对逆境的适应力.对压力和沮丧的抵抗力.
Beliefs in personal efficacy affect life choices,level of motivation,quality of funcition,resilience to adversity and vulnerability to stress and depression.
4. self concept is destiny.
5. update schema or ignore the information doesn’t match our schema or we actively seek confirmation.or creating new realtiy
6. fail more ,success more---learn to fail and fail to learn
7. how to match our beliefs---persistence,a lot of hard work…
how to interpret my failure?
8. Do a Realistic optimism---passion,hard work and optimism.
9. 如何去提高幸福水平---To try ,to face.and I will go over it .
真正来自失败的痛苦远小于我们所想像的~
That comes with failure is far less than the pain we imagine
When I know this ,I will be more confident.