不要说“我失业了”.doc

不要说“我失业了”

i love meeting new people, even if it makes me a little nervous. but one set of words that i hear at mixers and networking events makes me really want to run for the hills. you may have uttered these words. and i want to share some alternatives with you, so that youll make more connections, rather than having people dash off.

　　我喜爱认识新朋友，即便这会让我感到有些紧张。但从交友活动中听到的一些话让我真想溜之大吉。你也许会说出这些话。我希望和你分享一些别的说法，如此你会交到更多的朋友而不是让人们对你避之不及。

　　last night, i attended a fun networking event in berkeley, full of people who are on linkedin. the event was hosted by ilene koehler, who set us up in speed-dating fashion, to mix and mingle for five minutes per couple,“ and then move on. i noticed that three of the people i met immediately introduced themselves by saying something like this:

　　昨天晚上，我在伯克利参加了一个有趣的交友活动。特别多人是linkedin社交网站的网友。 这次活动的主持人是ilene koehler。她主持我们进展速配约会，每一对“交流五分钟，然后换不同的对象。我觉察我见到的人中有三个直截了当如此介绍本人：

　　hi. im john doe. and im unemployed.“

　　嗨，我叫john doe，我没工作。“

　　shoot, this isnt an aa meeting. but those initial words left me feeling awkward and sorry for my fellow networkers. somehow, i felt obligated, like i was supposed to help out. the energy between us felt heavy. so i actually told one of these networkers, hey, you shouldnt say your unemployed. say youre between jobs. or tell people that youre looking for a new job in whatever field youd enjoy.“ he got the point immediately. he smiled. he felt better about himself.

　　晕，这不是一次aa制聚会。如此的开始白让我觉得困顿，并为同来的人们感到抱歉。不知为什么，我觉得我必须协助他们。我们两人之间的气氛变得特别凝重。因此我告诉其中一位：嘿，你不必说本人没有工作。说你正在求职。或者告诉别人你正在寻找一份本人喜爱的工作。“他立即明白，笑了笑，觉得轻松多了。

　　you see, saying im unemployed“ tells people what youre not. and, in this case, it communicates im not employed.“ to me, saying im unemployed“ sounds a little bit like you dont feel like you fit in with the world. look, my friends,　your self-worth is not determined by your job.

　　你看，说没有工作“是在告诉别人本人不是什么“。 如今，它传递的是我没有工作“的含义。但是对我而言，它听上去有点像是你觉得本人没有融入这个世界。嗨，朋友们，你的自我价值不是由你的工作决定的。

　　i invite you to consider what really makes up your self-worthlike your caring heart, or your ability to stand tall in the face of adversity. but please know that you are not a social misfit just because some company has not decided to bring you on board. or some organization decided to let you go. a company is not your family, believe it or not. so, if you dont belong“ to a company, youre still a living, breathing, talented human being.

　　请你想一想到底是什么构成了你的自我价值比方：关爱之心、面对逆境坚强不屈的精神。但是要明白，仅仅是某公司没有录用你或者当某个企业让你走人并不说明你是社会中的另类“。公司不是你的家，信不信由你。因此，假设你不属于“一个公司，你仍然一个活着的、呼吸着的、有才华的人。