幸福不在终点.doc

幸福不在终点，而是在旅途当中
前几天看到看到“深圳36岁IT男猝死酒店马桶上” 这条新闻，非常有感触，前几年我跟他生活类似，区别在于他是在不停的加班写程序，我是不停的出差，永远在路上，随时有10、20个项目需要跟进，每天都有上百个待办清单要处理，几十个电话要打，几十个文档要完成，总是告诉自己等过了段时间就好了。幸好在身体和家庭崩溃之前想清楚自己想要什么，然后跳了出来。
别去总去等待未来，幸福从过好当下开始。在看到这条新闻的时候，就想起来艾佛烈德·德索萨的这篇文章：
幸福是一段旅程
Happiness Is a Journey
We always convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren‘t old enough and we‘ll be more content when they are. After that we‘ re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
我们总是相信，等我们结了婚，生了孩子生活会更美好。等有了孩子，我们又因为他们不够大而烦恼，想等他们大些时，我们就会开心了。可等他们进人青少年时期，我们还是同样地苦恼，于是又相信等他们过了这一阶段，幸福就会到来。
We always tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, and are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there‘s no better time than right now. If not now, when? Our life will always be filled with challenges. It‘s best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway.
我们总是告诉自己，等夫妻间任一方肯于合作，等我们拥有更好的车，等我们能去度一次美妙的假期，等我们退休后，我们的生活一定会完美的。而事实的真相是，没有任何时刻比现在更宝贵。倘若不是现在，又会是何时？我们的生活每时每刻都会有挑战。最好是让自己接受这一事实，无论如何使自己保持快乐的心境。
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned onto me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have. And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school; until you get married, until you get divorced; until you have kids, until your kids leave home; until you start work, until you retire; until you get a new car or home; until spring; until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy....
我很欣赏艾尔弗雷德?苏泽的一段名言。他说：“长期以来，我都觉得生活 —— 真正的生活似乎即将开始。可是总会遇到某种障碍，如得先完成一些事情。没做完的工作，要奉献的时间，该付的债，等等。之后生活才会开始。最后我醒悟过来了，这些障碍本身就是我的生活。” 这一观点让我意识到没有什么通往幸福的道路。幸福本身就是路。所以，珍惜你拥有的每一刻，且记住时不我待，不要再作所谓的等待 —— 等你上完学，等你再回到学校；等你结婚或离婚；等你有了孩子或孩子长大离开家；等你开始工作或等你退休；等你有了新车或新房；等春天来临；等你有幸再来世上走一遭才明白此时此刻最应快乐... ...
Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So, 幸福是一段旅程，而不是终点。所以，
Work like you don‘t need money, 如同不需要金钱一样工作；
Love like you‘ve never been hurt, 如同从未受过伤害一样去爱；
And dance like no one‘s watching. 如同没有人注视一样舞蹈。
to love, like never been hurt,  去爱吧，如同从未受过伤害一样，
to dance,like no one appreciate,  跳舞吧，如同没有人注视一样，
to sing, like no one listen to,  唱歌吧，如同没有人聆听一样，
to work, like no need of money, 工作吧，如同不需要金钱一样，
to life, like today is the end.  生活吧，如同今天是末日一样。