RoommateConflicts新视野大学英语室友间的冲突省公开课一等奖全国示范课微课金奖课.pptx

Roommate conflict1/16 About problems between roommates and their solutionsQuestionnaire 2/16What are you doing in the dorm at What are you doing in the dorm at 10 P.M?10 P.M?EatingEatingChattingChattingSleepingSleepingStudyingStudying 10%30%35%25%3/16Do you share the same habit with your Do you share the same habit with your roommate?roommate?ManyManySomeSomeLessLessnono15%35%45%5%4/16What you do think of your dorm life at present?Satisfying Satisfying Just so-Just so-sosoAwfulAwful 30%45%25%5/16Have you ever had roommate conflicts?AlwaysSometimesSeldomNever25%35%45%5%6/16What are you usually arguing for?Time for sleepingLiving habitsCleaningOpinions about something Others15%30%15%30%10%7/16What kind of measure would you take when conflict occurs?Speak out directlySend a message or e-mailKeep it in mindOthers 30%25%35%10%8/16Would you turn to your roommates first when you are in trouble?YesNoI dont know35%25%40%9/16What do you think affect the roommate relationships most?RegionsBackgroundsCharactersAcademic records 10%30%45%15%10/16If there is a chance to recombine the dorm members,would you still like to live with the former roommates?Yes No It doesnt really matter20%30%50%11/16What do you think is the most desperate problem to be solve in the dorm?CleaningDifficult personBad habit and behavior Others 15%25%35%15%12/1613/16HOST:STUDENT:There are six persons in our dormitory,which differs from the ordinary dorm of 4.More people mean more characters,more thoughts,more habits,and less personal space.The inconvenience caused by the crowded room can be really annoying.GRADUATE:This problem does exist in some dorms.The room I used to live is an ordinary room.4 persons share a room.Everyone have a desk which was enough for me to do the most works.STUDENT:There is sometimes an odd one in a dorm,whose habits,opinions and behavior are weird and obviously different from others.Gradually,that difficult person will be the one who always have conflicts with others.GRADUATE:That true.Ive ever had a roommate.His lifestyle was different from us,and he like to sleep early and get up early.But for us,it was too early.At the beginning,we can bear it,but later,we found that he snored so loudly,sometimes we couldnt at all.I t was hard but we have to be asleep before he went to sleep.Another roommate was so sensible that he was awaked all nigh.Therefore,they fight for this the other day.STUDENT:This was a rally typical roommate conflict.HOST:14/16HOST:COLLEGE INSTRUCTORS:It is the difference that makes who you are,so that everyone is unique on the earth.Dorm life is an important part of the college life.It can affect you on many aspects,such as your mood,habit,ideas and so on.So it is significant to live in harmony with the roommates.Nobody has the right to ask others to change anything,including there habits.If you realize that your behavior may cause conflict in the dorm,then you should make a choice to have change.And try to reduce the differences.PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELOR:What makes some people so easy to relate and others so difficult?We argue that conflict in a relationship occurs when the emphasis is on the differences,rather than on the similarities.Think of it as“United we stand,divided we cant stand each other.”Conflict occurs when the emphasis is on difference.Reducing differences can turn conflict into cooperation.COLLEGE INSTRUCTORS:Roommates should have good communications to get a better understanding,rather than make people understand you first.When two or more people want to be heard and no one is willing to listen,an argument is inevitable.Listen and understand first,and you unlock the doors to peoples minds.15/16PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELOR:Yeah,totally right.This is a bout the kind of understanding that will help you communicate effectively,prevent future conflict and resolve current conflict before it gets out of hand.The kind of understanding that results when you closely examine the difficult behavior until you can see the motive behind it.STUDENT:Living in the same room,there is no doubt that conflicts will occur.But the conflict is not a matter of profit or benefit.It is always about the broken pieces.When the conflict happens,remember to have introspection,and try to be tolerant and generous.HOST:.AUDIENCE:What you say or do to people can produce defensiveness or trust,increase resistance or cooperation,promote conflict or understanding.It depends on you.Remember that“communication”has the same origins as“common”:to communicate is to establish a common understanding.While communicating,stay flexible.While you cant change people you meet,you can communicate with them in such a way that they change themselves.Its a matter of knowing how to get through to them when theyre behaving badly.If the conflict is out of control,remember to turn to the college instructor for help.GRADUATE:Now each time I memorize the days when I live in the dormitory,my mind is full of happiness,instead of the conflicts.HOST:16/16