1、单击此处编辑母版标题样式,*,*,单击此处编辑母版文本样式,第二级,第三级,第四级,第五级,His Politeness Is Her Powerlessness,LOREM IPSUM DOLOR,第1页,1,INTRODUCTION,第2页,When they talk.,When a GUY talks to a GIRL,WhAT THE guy MEANT,WhAT THE girl UNDERSTOOD,When a girl talks to a guy,When THE girl REALLY MEANT,WHAT THE guy UNDERSTOOD,第3页,Backgrou
2、nd Information,Deborah Tannen,Occupation,:,Academic and professor of linguistics,P,ublish,ed:,20 books,and,over 100 articles,This pasage is from the book,You Just Dont Understand,第4页,2,Why are womens way of t,al,king misinterpreted,?,第5页,Differences between male and female,Women,:,avoid appearing“su
3、periority.”,Men,:,appearing“superior”.,Women,:,build relationships.,Men,:,give information,solve problems,show expertise,.,Women,:,want to,reach consensus,and consult.,Men,:,want to get straight and choose without,consulting,.,第6页,Interview a couple,What is the meaning of,being very polite,The man s
4、aid,:,Subservience,The woman said,:,Sensitivity,.,第7页,3,Does Indirectnessreflect powerlessness?,第8页,question,1.Gee,I really need a few things from the store,but Im so tired.,question,2.Can you come to my home and help me fix my computer?,Indirect=Powerlessness,question,3.I dont want to see you again
5、indirect,powerlessness,|,?,第9页,question,1.Will you please go to the store for a pack of cigarettes?,question,2.I cant go shopping with you,because I want to play games.,Direct=Natural,indirect,powerlessness,=,?,第10页,Point 1,1.The reason offered for this is power:The woman doesnt feel she has the r
6、ight to ask directly.,3.They dont want to superior,they just want to let everyone get along well with this king of indirect way.,2.The explanation for a womans indirectness could just as well be her seeking connection.,Right=Gene,Point3,Point 2,第11页,TWO SITUATIONS,Situation 1,A wealthy couple and th
7、eir maids,Situation 2,Parents and their children,第12页,Situation 1,It is cold here.,It is dinner time.,Having dinner served.,Raising the temperature.,第13页,Situation 2,when,we are,misbehaving,.,Then parents show up.,第14页,4,indirectness in different cultures,第15页,FOUR,CULTURES,MADAGASCAR,THE USA,JAPAN,
8、GREEK,第16页,Greek:indirectness was appropriate,Would you like to go to the party?,It means she wanted to go!,第17页,Japan:indirectness is an art,1.Determine,2.Accept,3.Several repeated exchange,4.Answered in politely,第18页,America:directness is a value,It is different from Japanese culture.,第19页,MADAGAS
9、CAR:Indirectness,=,high statuese,Women,:,Women:,direct style is clumsy and crude,Men:,indirect style is regard as better,第20页,5,Summarize,By,王振鹏,第21页,Part I(1-,2,),Part II(,3,-5),Structure&Main idea,Part II(6-9),第22页,Status vs.Support,Advice vs.Understanding,Orders,vs.Proposals,Independence vs.Intimacy,Information vs.Feelings,Confict vs.Compromise,Different Conversational Rules by Which Men and Women Play,第23页,Thanks,第24页,






