双-泛读-Family-and-Marriage(课堂PPT).ppt

单击此处编辑母版标题样式,单击此处编辑母版文本样式,第二级,第三级,第四级,第五级,*,Family and Marriage,1,Family and Marriage,All happy families resemble one another;every unhappy family is unhappy in its own fashion.,Leo Tolstoy,2,Family and Marriage,Nobody who has not been in the interior of a family can say what the difficulties of any individual of that family may be.,Jane Austen,3,Family and Marriage,Marriage is the best of human statuses and the worst,and it will continue to beThe demands that men and women make on marriage will never be fully met;they cannot be.,Jessie Bernard,4,Family Modes,One with a working dad,a stay at home mum,and a group of kids.,One in which both dad and mum work and kids are put at a day care center,Or some other arrangements,5,Husband and Wife,6,Marriage and Divorce,7,Divorce Rate in China,8,Interaction in Marriage,How to get along well with your future husband or wife?,9,The Wink,What is a happy marriage?,10,Vocabulary,Henpecked,Diabetic,Pearly,11,Comprehension,1.T,2.F,3.T,4.F,5.T,6.F,7.F,12,Vocabulary and Paraphrase,1.Mom,renowned for her talents in the kitchen,had,take it upon herself,to prepare a simple,but delicious meal for no less than 150 guests.,My Mom is well-known for being a good cook.She decided to cook a simple,but delicious meal for over 150 guests,though it was not necessarily her duty to do so.,13,Vocabulary and Paraphrase,2.Dad sat there as Mom,ticked off her list of grievance,against him.,Dad sat there as my Mom kept listing one after another her complaints about him,14,Vocabulary and Paraphrase,3.He hadnt eaten yet,probably because making coffee was,the extent of his skills,in the kitchen.,Dad was not good at cooking at all and the only thing that he could do was t prepare a cup of coffee.And thats why he hadnt eaten dinner yet.,15,Vocabulary and Paraphrase,4.Both acts,spoke volumes,.,My parents acts explicitly expressed the love they had for each other,with no reliance on words.,16,Vocabulary and Paraphrase,5.He wondered what on the earth,he was getting himself into,and nearly,backed out,He was not sure what he was heading for and he nearly gave up the idea of getting married.,17,Vocabulary,1,glowing,2,harangued,3,ranting and raving,4,renowned,5,placid,6,grievance,7,beleaguered,8,browbeaten,18,Group Discussion,1.Do you think the authors parents had a good marriage?Explain.,2.Like the authors husband,some people do become hesitant on the eve of marriage.What are some possible reasons behind this phenomenon?Are those reasons valid?,3.What your picture of an ideal marriage?Explain.,4.What are the potential influences of a happy marriage on children?And an unhappy one?Explain.,19,A Happy Marriage,Trust,Confidence,Understanding,Adjustment,Good role model,Commitment,Respect,20,When Feathers Fly,21,Words in Focus,Glare-glare at,Harness-fasten,to tie or connect to,Yearling-one year old animal,not yet two,Corpse-a dead body,Morale-the amount of confidence in difficulty,Regal-royal,Haul-pull or drag forcibly,Sustenance-food and drink,Stink-make smelly,22,Between Husband and Wife,23,Comprehension,1.What was the trigger of the fight between the couple?,2.According to the author,what was the real reason for the fight?,3.Who were Tweety,Weiser,and Eek?,4.Why did the author want her husband to move the body of the dead ostrich instantly?,5.Why did the authors husband leave the room in a hurry?And why did he come back later?,6.What are some of the lessons the author has learnt?,24,Paraphrase,1.Its bad for,morale,.,The other ostriches will be affected when they see the dead body of a fellow ostrich.,25,Paraphrase,2.Time for my,trump card.,I said what could hurt my husband the most.,26,Paraphrase,4.Consequently,feathers,flew,at the first excuse.,As a result,any accident,like the dead ostrich,was enough to start rows between husband and wife.,27,Paraphrase,5.A spiritually mature person or couple may be willing to,get some of the smell on them,to enable you to,remove the issue from your marriage,.,A spiritually mature person or couple may be willing to go for some religious or psychological counseling so that they can get rid of the problem in their marriage.,28,Paraphrase,6.They can always wash themselves in the,Word,.,They can always get refreshment from reading the word of God.(religious texts),29,Vocabulary,Loop,The king had pearls,looped,round his neck.,Loop,the wire over the gate to keep it shut.,Adjust,My father went to,adjust,the television set for my grandmother.,It is necessary to check and,adjust,the brakes regularly,Harness to,To fulfill the task satisfactorily,we need to,harness,individual talents to one common end.,30,Vocabulary,Trump Card,The coach saved his star pitcher for a,trump card,.,Spin,The racing car,spun,over the track.,Barbara waved as she,spun,past in her new sport car.,Roll ones eye,The woman,rolled,her,eyes,at Smith.,31,Vocabulary,Heave a sigh,They all,heaved a sigh,of relief when Bob finally left.,With ones nose in the air,Hes been walking,with,his,nose,in,the,air,since he won the prize.,Stink up,The factory,stinks,up,the town.,Those onions are,stinking,the whole house,up,.,32,Group Discussion,1.What do you think a couple should do in difficult times?,2.Is communication between husband and wife very important?Explain.,3.What would you do if a problem occurs in your relationship?,4.Is financial security an important factor in maintaining a good relationship?Explain.,33,Happy Couples,34,Work Out the Differences in Marriage,Learn to live with the thing that cannot change,Be glad that your partner brings qualities that you do not have.,Start a discussion when you want to strengthen your relationship,When you are angry,tired,or going to hurt your partner,save the discussionDont dwell on your complaints,35,Work Out the Differences in Marriage,Making requests,“You never helped me.You dont seem to notice anyones needs but your own.”,Or,“Im very stressed;could you help me by getting dinner,helping me clean up the house”,Look for solutions rather than accusations,Dont waste your time arguing about who did what and why.Instead,focus on way you can help each other.,36,The Odd Couple,37,Young Upper Class Couple,38,Comprehension,It had all the,ingredients,:success,money,ambition,image-obsession,and violence.,It has become a modern,fable,a,cautionary,tale that flashes a warning,beacon,throughout a whole upper,echelon of tough,young men pushing their way to the top,at the expense of their families.,He was a young lawyer,zooming up,the status ladder in the fast lane.,39,Comprehension,His private life had always been a,catastrophe,but one well hidden.,The last straw for his wife came the day he started to turn his violent,rage,against his eldest son.,Charlotte Fedders,filed for,divorceBut her husband want to,battle it out,.,40,Comprehension,He was,obsessively mean,about moneyThey live,way beyond,their,means,.,It showed that,battered,wives were not necessarily poor or,confined to ghettos,.,On top of that,he wanted 25%of the,proceeds,of the book on the grounds that he was the,star,of itImagine the shock when the court accepted his,plea,and did,award,that 25%.,41,Comprehension,She thought as a young nurse that she would never find a husband with the sort of earning power that her family expected.,But he spied in her what he wanted:,obedience,adoration,inferiority yet a sufficiently cultivated veneer for social acceptability.,What do wives and children have to tolerate in order to keep a man on the upward path?,42,Comprehension,1.What reaction did the story of the Fedderses cause in Washington?Why?,2.What impression did outsiders have about the Fedderses life style?,3.What made Charlotte Fedders finally decide to divorce her husband?,4.How was John Fedders relationship with his sons?Use a couple of sentences to outline the father-son relationship in the Fedders family.,5.What were the reasons that John Fedders went back to the divorce court?,6.What was the judgment of the court on the final issue?What was the peoples reaction to the judgment?,7.What kind of woman was Charlotte Fedders before,during,and after marriage?,43,Truth of the Fedders44,Comprehension B,1.T,2.F,3.F,4.T,5.T,45,Vocabulary,1.shocked,2.a morality story,3.serving as a waning,4.racing,5.spotless clean/shining,6.the final blow,7.hit/beat,8.practically,9.much more expensive than one could afford,10.for the reason,11.depressing,12.perceived,1.rocked,2.a fable/cautionary story,3.a warning beacon,4.zooming,5.gleaming,6.the last straw,7.thumped,8.virtually,9.way beyond ones means,10.on the grounds,11.dispiriting,12.spied,46,Vocabulary B,1.The hotel was expensive,the food poor and the bad weather was,the last straw,.,2.I left Adrian and Jo,battling it out,.I cant stand to bear such fighting anymore.,3.High production rates are often achieved,at the expense of,quality of work.,4.These medical costs are,beyond the means of,most working people.,5.Colley refused.This was,the last straw,and a row broke out.,6.When his wife left him his world,fell apart,.,7.This disease is not just,confined to,children.,8.She was prohibited from speaking,on the grounds,that it would stir up trouble.,9.The southern part of the town,bore the brunt,of the attack.,10.He finished the job,at the expense of,his health.,47,Collocations,A happy/successful marriage,A broken/disastrous/failed/unhappy marriage,Marriage vows/marriage break-up/marriage break-down/marriage counseling,To save ones marriage,A marriage of convenience,A shotgun marriage,The marriage is over/breaks down(up)/ends/falls apart/fails.,48,Expressions Likely to Be Used in Discussion,a bumpy relationship,a broken home,a family feud,Relationships can be break down because of genuine misunderstandings,A rift can develop between two people or two groups.,His love affair with Jane has turned sour.I think theyll split up/break up.,Our marriage has had its ups and downs.But basically it is OK.,Lets try and make up.,Their relationship is on the rocks.,They are still in a honeymoon period.,They arent getting through a rough patch.,The arent getting along very well.,They cant see enough of each other.,She cant put up with him any more.,They are going separate ways.,They stick together through thick and thin.,49,Solutions,Listen carefully,give empathy and positive responses.,Assume responsibility for your own feelings.,State tentative opinions,not absolute certainties.,A little empathy will work miracles,Stop the escalating bitterness,Dont expect it to be easy;there are many challenging barriers to having a good marriage.,50,Discussion,1.Have you ever heard of stories like the Fedders?Observe people around you;what do stories of other families tell you about family relationships?,2.What constitutes a successful life?Is the husbands success in a career the most important thing for a family because it implies financial security?Explain.,3.Do you think that Charlotte Fedders made a wise choice to leave her husband to be on her own?Explain.,51,Discussion,4.What do you think is the real meaning of womens liberation?Does walking out of the kitchen and being a career woman represent womens liberation?Explain.,5.What types of people are at the risk of being victimized like Charlotte Fedders?Or becoming abusers like John Fedders?What can you do to make sure this doesnt happen to you?How would you try to help someone going through what the Fedderses went through?,52,Why I Want a Wife,53,Paraphrases,1.I belong to that,classification,of people known as wives.,2.Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared,on the scene,fresh from a recent divorce,.,3.I want a wife to,keep track of,the childrens doctor and dentist appointments.And to keep a track of mine,too.,54,Paraphrases,4.I want a wife who isa good nurturant attendant,to my children,who arranges for their schooling,makes sure that they have the an adequate social life with their,peers,take them to the park,the zoo,etc.,5.My wife must arrange to,lose time at work and not lose the job.,6.I want a wife who will keep my clothes,clean,ironed,mended,replaced when need be,and who will see to it that my personal things are kept in their proper place so that I can find what I need the minute I need it.,55,Paraphrases,7.I want a wife who will,plan the menus,do the necessary grocery shopping,prepare the meals,serve them pleasantly,and then do the cleaning up,while I do my studying.,8.I want a wife who will not bother me with,rambling complaints,about a wifes duties.,9.Who makes sure that they have an ashtray,that they are passed the hors doeuvres,that they are offered a second helping of the food,that their wine glasses are,replenished,when necessary,that their coffee are,served to them as they like it.,56,Paraphrases,10.I want a wife who will not,demand,sexual attention when I am not,in the mood for it,.,11.And I want a wife who understands that my sexual needs may,entail,more than strict adherence to monogamy,.,12.My God,who wouldnt want a wife?,57,Structure of the Article,Part 01,Paragraphs 01-02,Part 02,Paragraphs 03-07,Part 03,Paragraphs 08-09,Part 04,Paragraphs 10,58,Check Your Comprehension A,1.a,2.c,3.d,4.d,5.b,59,Check Your Comprehension B,1.Because a wife is expected to take over all the boring chores at home so that the husband is free to do the things that he wants to.She would expect“the wife”to do lots of tings.The wife should:,A.take care of the children;,B.keep the track of their appointments with doctors and dentist.,C.feed the children properly and keep them clean.,D.do all the laundry.,E.make sure that the children have an adequate social life with their friends.,F.take leave from the work to stay at home with children if they fall ill.,G.to be a good cook.,H.take care of the children when the family is on holiday.,I.be a courteous hostess before guest.,J.be sexually sensitive to the needs of spouse.,K.be faithful to the marriage;etc.,60,Check Your Comprehension,2.A wife is not treated as an equal partner in marriage.When marriage fails,it usually the wife who takes the strain.The husband usually doe not want be burdened by the children.And that is why the children“of course”stay with their mother.,A wife who arranges to be around when the children need special care,because,of course,I cannot miss classes at school.,Naturally,I will expect a fresh,new life;my life will take the children and be solely responsible for them so that I am left free.,These words reflect the imaginary husband thought and sleep and selfish assumptions.,3.She should be a wife,mother,nanny,secretary,chef,career woman all in one,making no physical or spiritual/emotional/intellectual demands on the husband at the same time.,61,Vocabulary,1.He often,rambled,and said strange things.,2.We have to import an extra 4 million tons of wheat to,replenish,our reserves.,3.The move,entailed,radical changes in life style.,4.To be the surprise of many people,lifetime,monogamy,has some drawbacks.,62,Vocabulary,5.What a mess!The desk is,clutterd,with peoples,books and ashtrays.,6.It is important that the fire reg