Unit4Loveandlovingrelationship公开课获奖课件.pptx

单击此处编辑母版标题样式,单击此处编辑母版文本样式,第二级,第三级,第四级,第五级,单击此处编辑母版标题样式,单击此处编辑母版文本样式,第二级,第三级,第四级,第五级,Love and Loving Relationships,Nijole V.Benokraitis,Unit 4,第1页,What are the essential factors in choosing your boyfriend/girlfriend?,Appearance:,Character:,Job:,Family background:,第2页,Responsible,Reliable,Hard-working,Humorous,Easy-going,Generous,Romantic,Smart,Considerate,knowledgeable,What characters make your dream man?,第3页,A story about love:,Once a lady when having a conversation with her,lover,asked:,Lady,:Why do you like me.?Why do you love me?,Man,:I cant tell the reason.but I really like you.,Lady:You cant even tell me the reason.how can you say you,like me?How can you say you love me?,Man:I really dont know the reason,but I can prove that I love U.,Lady:Proof?No!I want you to tell me the reason.My friends,boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!,Man:Ok.ok!Emmmmm.because you are,beautiful,because your voice is sweet,because you are,caring,because you are loving,because you are thoughtful,because of your smile,because of your every movements.,第4页,The lady felt very satisfied with the mans,answer.Unfortunately,a few days later,the lady,met with an accident and went in ma.The,guy then placed a letter by her side,and here is,the content:,Darling,Because of your sweet voice that I love you.Now,can you talk?No!Therefore I cannot love you.,Because of your care and concern that I like,you.,第5页,Now that you cannot show them,therefore I cannot love you.Because of your smile,because of your every movements that I love you.Now can you smile?Now can you move?No,therefore I cannot love you.If love needs a reason,like,now,There is no reason for me to love you any more.Does love need a reason?NO!Therefore,I still love you.,Sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen,cannot be touched,but can be felt in the heart,第6页,What is,love?,Love is a sensation(感觉）(based on physical and emotional attraction)that magically,spontaneously generates when Mr.or Mrs Right appears.,Love is a strong feeling of attachment(爱慕、爱慕）,intimacy and longing between people.Such a feeling makes people unselfish and willing to devote all that they have.,Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating anothers goodness.,第7页,What is,love?,Common and essential love:,family love,friends,the love between a man and a woman.,第8页,Understanding love and marriage,Mutual understanding is crucial to the success of marriage.As a saying goes:Marriage is the grave for love.”To a certain extent,it has some point in it,because love in most case is romantic and the lover only sees the bright side of his or her counterpart,but the marriage involves more unpleasant things.During the daily life,you not only discover his or her bright side,you may also be reluctant to find sometimes him or her offensive to you.Therefore,mutual understanding is pretty important to maintain a good marriage.Without it,the couples will only plain each other when confronted with conflicts between them.As time goes by and the tension exists,more often than not,the marriage will eventually fall collapsed.So the most and foremost thing that a couple should keep in mind is that the precious love that bind them together.If not for that,how could they get to know and fall in love with each other?,第9页,Tips to Love and Happy Marriage,1.Start each day with a kiss or a hug,2.Wear your wedding ring at all times,3.Accept differences,4.Be gentle,5.Select a song that can be“our song”,6.Do what the other person wants before he or she asks,第10页,Tips to Love and Happy Marriage,7.Encourage,8.Know his or her needs,9.Compliment twice a day,10.Call during the day,11.Ask for each others opinion,12.Show respect,13.Celebrate birthdays in a big way,第11页,Tips to Love and Happy Marriage,14.Apologize,15.Forgive,16.Be positive,17.Respond quickly to the other persons request,18.Treat each others friends and relatives with courtesy,第12页,Idioms about love,:,lovebirds,鸳鸯,fall in love,相爱,love at first sight,一见钟情,be head over heels in love,热恋中,have a crush on sb,迷恋,sweep sb.off their feet,另某人一见倾心,第13页,For better,for worse;,For richer,for poorer;,In sickness and in health;,To love and to cherish;,Till death us do part.,Marriage Vows,第14页,Background of the text,The text is extracted from Marriages and Families by Nijole V.Benokraitis.The book has been used as a textbook for sociology courses and womens studies in a number of universities in the U.S.It highlights important contemporary changes in society and the family and explores the choices that are available to family members,as well as the constraints that many of us do not recognize.It examines the diversity of American families today,using cross-cultural and multicultural parisons to encourage creative thinking about the many critical issued that confront the family of the twenty-first century.,第15页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Part 1.,Paras.1-3,Main idea:Love is,essential for,human survival,.,Arguments:Para.1,A,.,The family is usually our earliest and most important source of love and emotional support.,B,.Babies and children,deprived of,love,have been known to develop a wide variety of problems.,Supports:,第16页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Problems babies and children develop(which sometimes:,Depression,Headaches,Physiological impairments 生理方面残疾,Neurotic and psychosomatic difficulties 神经质及心理上压力导致疾病,In contrast,Infants who are loved and cuddled typically gain more weight,cry less,and smile more.By five years of age,they have been found to have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.,第17页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Main idea:,Love is essential for,human survival.,Arguments:Paras.2-3,C,.Much research shows that,the quality of care,infants receive,affects,their life,in many ways,.,Supports:(,how,how,how,how,.),(So peoples early intimate relationships within their family of origin are critical.)In contrast,D,.Love for oneself,or self-love,is also essential for ,Supports:(,Example of,Mae West,),第18页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Main idea:,Love is essential for,human survival.,Arguments:Paras.2-3,E.,Social scientists describe self-love as,F.,People who dont like themselves may not be able to(self-love as a prerequisite for loving others,Fromm,1956),第19页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Part 2.What is love?Paras.4-8,A.Love is an,elusive,concept.(argument),Supports:,a,.When asked what love is,people give a variety of answers.,sub-supports:,b,.Love has many dimensions.,c,.Love can be romantic,exciting,obsessive,irrational or platonic,calming,altruistic,d,.Love defies a single definition,第20页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,B.Three elements for a loving relationship:a.b.c.,C.Love,especially long-term love,has nothing in mon with the images of love or frenzied sex that we get from Hollywood,television,and romance novels.,supports:“stirring-the-oatmeal love”,第21页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,Part 3.What type of love brings people together?Is there one person out there that one is meant for?Paras.9-12,Supports:,a.,Empirical studies show that cultural norms and values,not fate,bring people together.,Cultural norms and values:,b.,Criticism and approval teach us what is acceptable romantic behavior and with whom.,第22页,Text Analysis-Love and Loving Relationships,c.Lust and desire are different from love,especially romantic love.,d.One should not conclude that desire always culminate in physical intimacy or that desire is the same as romantic love.,e.Healthy loving relationships,whether physical or not(such as love for family members),reflect a balance of caring,intimacy,and mitment.,第23页,Background information:,Mae West(1893 1980),American actress,playwright,screenwriter,and sex symbol.,Pen name:Jane Mask,First starring role in a play:,Sex,(1926),Other starring roles in:,Night After Night,(1932),She Done Him Wrong,(1933),Im No Angel,(1933),Myra Breckinridge,(1970),Sextette,(1978),第24页,Mae West(麦韦斯特)(1893-1980)百老汇著名女演员,麦韦斯特5 岁时便登台演戏演滑稽戏，14岁时开始演杂耍戏并在百老汇舞台上演时事挖苦剧。1926年她创作并演出了自己第一种剧本性，在百老汇引起轰动，但却遭到司法部门禁演，并被拘留5天，原因是该剧内容有伤风化。1927年她又编导了一部描写同性恋戏剧舞会，该剧一上演便大获好评，但却被警告不得在百老汇上演。1928年她创作小钻石终于在百老汇获得好评，根据小钻石改编而成电影地狱之花也在1933年获得奥斯卡最对旳影片提名。35年以性感著称麦韦斯特成为当时好莱坞片酬最高女明星。40年代，她曾在欧洲各地舞台上巡回演出她得意之作小钻石数年之久。1954年，六十多岁麦韦斯特开始在夜总会演出，不想早已不是风华正茂她同样获得了巨大成功，可见其魅力之大。1959年她出版了自己自传与德性无关。70年，已年届80她重返影坛参与影片迈拉布雷肯里奇演出与制作。78年，85岁高龄她仍然宝刀不老，再次重返影坛，自编自导了影片老相好群英会。,第25页,Background information,艾瑞克弗洛姆,(Erich Fromm,，,1900,1980),，德國猶太人。為逃避納粹迫害，逃亡美國，於一九三四年加入美國籍。他是二十世紀著名心理學家、社會學家和哲學家，人本主義精神分析學說創始人。在心理學中，他是精神分析社會文化學派代表人物和集大成者；在哲學中，他又是法蘭克福學派和西方馬克思主義代表人物之一。,第26页,Language points,1.Babies and children,deprived of,love have known to develop a wide variety of problemfor example,depression,headaches,physiological,impairments,and,neurotic,and,psychosomatic,difficultiesthat sometimes last a lifetime.(Para.1),deprive sb of sth.:,剥夺；使丧失,e.g.,He was deprived of his rights to education.,他被剥夺了受教育权利。,impairment:,the fact that a part of your body is unable to do something fully,（身体机能）受损,e.g.,a hearing impairment,听力受损,第27页,2.Among other things,people who like themselves are more open to criticism and less demanding of others.(Para.3),among other things:除了别以外，此外,e.g.1)Shes very keen on sport;among other things,she plays tennis twice a week.,2)At the meeting they discussed,among other things,recent events in Japan.,demanding:(指人)对他人规定高,苛求,e.g.Children are so demanding:they need constant attention.,第28页,3.,Love has many,dimensions,.,(Para.5),dimension:,an aspect of a situation that influences the way that you think about the situation,方面；部分,e.g.,1)There is a dimension to the problem that we have not discussed.,2)There is a political dimension(,政治色彩）,to the accusations.,第29页,4.,Although love may involve passionate,yearning,respect is a more important quality.,(Para.6),yearning,:,n.,a strong desire or feeling of wanting something,向往，思慕，渴望,e.g.,1)He had a deep yearning to return to his home town.,2)I suppose its because I live in a crowded city that I have this yearning for open spaces.,第30页,5.Even during the preteen years,romantic experiences are cultured in the sense that societal and group practices and expectations shape romantic experience.(Para.10),preteen:of,relating to,characteristic of,or designed for preteens 13岁如下小朋友,e.g.preteen fashions 青春期前小朋友时装,societal:relating to a particular society,or the way society is organized 社会,e.g.societal changes 社会变革,societal forces 社会势力,第31页,6.Regan and Berscheid(1999),differentiate,between lust,desire,and romantic love.,(Para.11),differentiate:,to see or show a difference between things=distinguish,识别；看出,差异,e.g.,1)Neil is color-blind and cannot differentiate between red and green.2)Its sometimes hard to differentiate one sample from another,.,第32页,7.Once desire diminishes,disappointed lovers may wonder where the“spark”in their relationship has gone and may reminisce regretfully(and longingly)about“the good old days”.(Para.11),diminish:to be e less,or to make something be e less（使）变小；（使）减少,e.g.Suddenly the wind diminished and the sea grew calm again.忽然风变小了，大海又安静了下来。,reminisce:v.to recall or talk about past experiences,events,etc.追忆往事，缅怀往事；回忆，话旧,e.g.We spent the evening reminiscing about our university days.我们整晚都在回忆我们大课时光。,第33页,Useful Grammar in the Text,1.,By five years of age,they have been,found,to have significantly higher IQs,and,to score higher on language tests,.,2,.When asked,what love is,people give,a variety of answers.,3.,Regan and Berscheid suggest that desire is an essential ingredient for,initiating and maintaining romantic love,.,第34页,非谓语动词使用措施,1.非谓语动词分类,2.非谓语动词特点,3.非谓语动词时态、语态变化,4.非谓语动词在句中使用,第35页,指出如下句中非谓语动词使用措施,It is not easy,to master(mastering),a foreign language.,They encouraged,learning,English by radio.,The next train,to arrive was from New York.,We jumped with joy,to hear,the news.,Dont get your schedule,changed;,stay with us.,第36页,1.The boss realized the importance of qualified,staff,and urged all _ to participate in the,training seminar.,A.concerningB.the concerning,C.concernedD.the concerned,2.In Australia the Asians have made their influence _ in businesses,large and small.,A.feelingB.feel C.felt D.to be felt,3._ in a simple style,the book clearly describes the authors childhood experiences in a small town.,A.Writing B.To be written,C.Being written D.Written,第37页,True or False,1.According to the researches,children who have intimate relationship with their own families will show their strong ability to municate,to get high school achievements,to react to possible stressful situations and to find good jobs.,2.Children from an unloving environment are likely to show emotional and social underdevelopment,language and motor skills retardation,and mental health problems.,3.According to the author,it is very difficult to give a single definition for love because of the various degrees,intensity and different social context of it.,第38页,According to the author,people e together because of their cultural standards and principles as well as their destiny.,5 According to the expert,“stirring-the-oatmeal love”(Para.7)means that parents have to prepare the meal together in order to show their love.,6 Desire is an essential ingredient for initiating and maintaining romantic love,however,one should not conclude that desire always culminates in physical intimacy or that desire is the same as romantic love.,第39页,Love is essential for human survival.First,family is usually earliest and most important source of love.So children _1_ may develop a variety of problems such as depression,headaches and neurotic difficulties,while children who are loved have been found to have significantly higher IQs and to _2_ on language tests.In addition,self-love is also essential for our _3_ development.Social scientists describe self-love as an important basis _4_,and it is necessary for loving others.,In terms of describing love,love is an elusive concept which has many dimensions and varies in _5_ and across social contexts.There are three elements necessary for a loving relationship:(1)you are willing to _6_ the other person,even if this involves promise and sacrifice;(2)you can accept the other persons faults and short ings;and(3)you _7_the love ones welfare as your own.And people who say they are“in love”emphasize caring,_8_.,Empirical studies show that _ _9_ and values,not fate,bring people together.Your decisions about acceptable romantic involvements may be influence by your parents,_10 _,as well as societal and group practices and expectations.,第40页,